Nip it!

Congratulations to a very good friend of mine (let's call her Stacy) and her new fiance (we'll call him Robert) on their engagement!

Robert is really a great guy who is sweet, charming, thoughtful and kind but you guessed it.. our sweet Robert is a Mama's Boy! Now before I go any further, I don't want you to think that all MB's are blind, weak, spineless creatures when it comes to their moms (but most are) and I really don't want you to think that there are no benefits to being with an MB because the fact is there are some benefits like..well..let's get into that another time. Today's post is about Stacy & Robert!

Stacy has mentioned in the past that Robert's mom is pretty cool but we all know how that can change as soon as the relationship graduates from dating to being engaged. In this particular case, Robert's mother (let's call her Ann) has decided to provide Stacy and Robert with unsolicited assistance in planning their wedding. Not only has she told Stacy that the demure but otherwise beautiful wedding dress she has already purchased is not good enough for a wedding; she has also decided to take it upon herself to book appointments at various reception halls throughout Queens, Long Island, Westchester and New Jersey without discussing anything with the couple.

During my conversation with Stacy, I asked her how Robert felt about his mom trying to take over and of course he gave her one of the most popular answers a Mama's Boy could give "Well, she's just trying to help" (mmm hmmm) and then he followed up with one of my personal favorite lines "Maybe she's just trying to bond with you". RIGHT!! SURE, THAT'S WHAT IT IS!! Maybe she is or maybe she isn't. Maybe she's just used to being involved in ALL things Robert. She has been a part of every major decision in his life and this should be no different. Maybe she does mean well BUT she needs to know that's she's already stepped out of bounds and it's not acceptable, period. Wanting to help is one thing but taking over is a completely different ball game. So, I told Stacy she needs to sit down and have a heart to heart with Robert now before things get ugly.

Before we feel the first twitch in our eye and the nail cutting curl of our fists; we should discuss our feelings with our men and sincerely ask them (because if we don't they won't) to talk to their mom's and nip the problem in the bud! Truly give them the chance to take care of it in a timely fashion, however, should your man delay or stall for any reason and matters become worse it's time for you to take action! Now, before you do anything give him one last warning (in a calm and loving manner of course) and if he stalls again it's up to you.

So readers, please do me a favor and give Stacy your suggestions for handling this situation.

What would you do?