Long Distance Mama's Boy

You know those "relationships" or encounters with men that you put out of your mind for years? I am very good at doing that. I"m so good that I used to scare myself. The ability to erase a person or experience from your mind is no joke..well maybe we don't actually erase but I think you know what I'm talking about. Yesterday, while riding home on the train; I overheard a conversation between two men about a long distance relationship that one has with a woman from Illinois and while he really likes her, his mom thinks he should end it..all for the simple fact that she doesn't approve of long distance dating. WOW. I wish I could have heard more but they got off before me. ANYWAY the story gave me a flashback to a time when I found myself having a long distance friendship with someone from Park Forest, Illinois. After years of talking on the phone and emails (we "met" through a mutual friend) I finally decided to take a trip out there to see him. Before my actual trip he told me that his mother was concerned about my visit and wanted to know what the sleeping arrangements would be. In her defense, she was was concerned about his son (her grandson) seeing him sleep in the same bed with a woman who was not his mother. Now just so you know, the actual plan was for me to sleep in his bedroom while he slept on the couch. "Brighton" and I had already discussed this issue before I bought my plane tickets SO this was somewhat okay by me. "Brighton" was not married and as a single parent he was very careful about who he brought around his son (who had to be 12 or 13 at the time) and I totally respected that. To be honest I was also concerned about how his son would feel but he talked to him before any plans were made. When I think back to it all, that was my first real Mama's Boy warning sign but I had no clue of just how much of a punk..excuse me, Mama's Boy he really was UNTIL I got there!

During my whole trip, she called repeatedly asking him question after question and what did he do? Answered every question like a good little boy. He told her where we went, what we did and what we would do the following day. This was almost every night for the whole week I was there! Please keep in mind that his son "Joshua" was in school during this time.. so why was any of this her business (especially during school hours)and why did this "grown" 32 year old man feel the need to tell her every detail? I know she was "concerned" about her grandson but come on! I forgot to mention that she would stop by unannounced and when he tried to introduce me she did not want to meet me! She would make her son come outside to meet her while she sat in her car.

Anyway, it all turned out for the best as the idea of a possible relationship was over and done with within the next 6 months.

I just had to share that one!